Beyond Goal Setting: A Framework for Becoming the Person You Want to Be
Updated: Jun 1, 2021
"Firstly, know what you want; have a clear idea of your outcome in any situation. Secondly, be alert and keep your senses open so that you notice what you are getting.
Thirdly, have the flexibility to keep changing what you do until you get what you want."
From Introducing NLP
By Joseph O'Connor & John Seymour
So, are you getting what you want? Are you taking steps toward your goals? Are you evolving in body, mind, and spirit?
If yes, fantastic.
How will you maintain this growth, sustainably, unendingly?
If no, it's time to try something different. We've probably all heard of SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timebound), but how often do we actually reach our goals when we use this framework? There are some key components of reaching our goals that are missing from SMART goals.
Whether you want to stay on track or try something different, use this much more effective framework to do some goal setting and more importantly, become the person you need to be to reach those goals, and START TAKING ACTION:
DESIRE: What is it that I desire most?
What is the positive outcome I would like to happen?
What do I truly want?
Consider the implications of achieving this goal in body, mind, and spirit
Get focused. Choose one thing to work toward. Make it a grand and exciting goal. There may be smaller components/subgoals within, but bring them all back to one overarching desire.
Who do I need to be to make this happen?
What do I need to do to make this happen?
How can I get started NOW?
Prioritize BEING who you need to be (internal state). Do you believe you can become the person you need to be?
DOING (external action) will come naturally if you believe you can be the kind of person who can... (fill in: goal/desired outcome).
For instance... if you want to run a marathon, your priority is to become a runner. If your goal is to practice yoga every day, your priority is to become a yogi. Your identity informs and shapes your habits. If you don't believe you are a runner, you won't get up every morning to run, at least not for very long.
Who, what, when, where, why, and how will this happen?
The clearer your vision is, the more likely you can bring it to life.
What will I see, hear, and feel when this happens?
How will I reward myself, not just for the final achievement, but for every step along the way?
Rewarding yourself will make it more likely you will make a habit of the responsibilities and behaviours necessary to achieve your goal.
What can you reward yourself with at the end of a week where you followed your plan?
Consider how you will feel physically, mentally, and spiritually.
Do I have adequate resources and choices to make this happen/manifest your desire?
What do I need to get the outcome I desire?
How can intelligently use the resources I do have to reach this goal?
Be scrappy, be innovative, be creative.
Those who lose blame a "lack of resources"
Those who win use what they have and what they can obtain to reach their goals.
Is this outcome the right size?
If the outcome is too large/overwhelming, how can I break this into smaller, more manageable steps?
If the outcome is too small/not motivating, how can I relate this to a larger outcome that excites me?
Having an acute plan is important. What steps will you take each month, week, day, hour?
If looking at the peak of the mountain is scary, don't worry, just take the first step. Then the next, and the next, and the next...
How can I modify my environment to make it easier to achieve this goal?
What would be the consequences in my life if this happened?
Who else does this effect?
If I got it right now, would I take it?
Do I have any feelings of doubt or worry?
Modifying your environment will make you much more likely to achieve your goal. Want to workout every morning? Set out your gym clothes the night before. Want to drink more water? Put your bottle next to your keys so you never forget to bring it with you.
Fear of failure needs to be conquered, but so does the fear of success.
If there are feelings of doubt, consider how you can edit your desire/goal to feel more manageable.
Are you ready to make this goal your top priority?
Are you committed to making this happen even if proves to be highly challenging?
Are you prepared to be patient with yourself and your circumstances if you encounter unexpected obstacles, barriers, or setbacks?
Are you ready to adapt, to change in body, mind, and spirit, and to evolve as a person in pursuit of your desire?
If you are committed,
Consider sharing your desire, your plan, and your commitment with your friends, family, and community, especially those who you know will support you and keep you accountable. Making a social commitment, as well as a commitment to yourself, will help you stick to your plan. Plus, you will inspire others to evolve in the process.
Join the EV/CO community for a great support system. Share your goal with us! https://www.evolutioncollective.online/group/evolution-collective-group/discussion
I trust this framework helps you dive deeper into your goals, become the person you know you can be, and take action.
Thanks for reading. Wishing you well 🙏,